These are my thoughts, frustrations, and experiences as I navigate life as the mother of an autistic daughter, an "average" son, and our future children adopted from Africa.
Living in Sierra Leone
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Thursday, May 29, 2014
What's with the third degree?
I feel so exposed! We have completed our part of the home study. This involves pages and pages of information all about us. You get to share all of your finances, your criminal background, and even your fingerprints with a perfect stranger who decides if you are a good candidate to parent a child. Then you get to ask friends and family to complete referrals that include questions about our mental state and ability to handle stress (we carefully chose which friends got to fill those out!) And to top it off, there's the "personal autobiography". This is SUPER fun (insert sarcasm here). As prospective adoptive parents, we are given two pages full of questions and are asked to answer each question with a paragraph. These are questions that cover EVERY aspect of your life. What you've experienced, what you thought about what you've experienced, what you expect to experience, how you feel about all of said experiences, and what everyone who has ever known you feels about the way you experienced all of these experiences. It a lot! I finally finished mine at ten pages, single spaced. I know I'm getting old but ten pages, really? I am fairly boring and am not sure how I filled ten pages but I did. The whole experience (I'm getting tired of that word) is neither negative or positive, its just odd. When, in your normal life, do you stop and contemplate every major and many minor events of your life? And then, when you finally finish, you give it to a complete stranger to read. Its just all a little uncomfortable. But not in a bad way. Kind of like getting a tooth pulled. You dread it before you do it, you suffer through it, and then you are glad you did it. The best part is when you finally feel like you've done all of the hard stuff, another complete stranger comes to your home to "go over" everything you shared. So, there you are, with a complete stranger, asking you to expand on the event in your life that most affected you and to verify that you truly have never been convicted of a felony, etc. Totally normal, right? The cool thing about the entire process is that you get to really look at the big picture of who you are and how you got to be that way. I am so glad to have had so many life shaping experiences. Its a real blessing to stop and recognize how God has worked throughout my life, molding me. And the best part is that we are one step closer to growing our family!!!
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